is this beneficial and constructive?

I am at a place.  That place where I am overwhelmed by my children, my eating, my house, and many other areas of my life.  I want to be reborn and become a new person.  I want to wake up in the morning and be the mom, wife, and housekeeper I have always dreamed.  I know this is the topic of many blog posts, but this is me.  I want me to be who God desires me to be.  I read books and they help for a minute, but they haven't stuck.  I try to do it on my own.  I can survive on my own, but that is what it is, I survive my life.  I am so tired of surviving.  I can watch what I eat for weeks, but I ultimately fail.  I can have days where I am the mother I desire to be, but I ultimately fail.  I fail, but if I allowed my Lord, my Maker to move in me, He won't fail.  He will be glorified.  Oh how I wish and pray that He will bring me to that place.  How do I get myself out of the way?  How do I just give Him complete and total control?

Recently He has brought this verse to me, 1 Corinthians 10:23-24 " “Everything is permissible”—but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible”—but not everything is constructive. ²⁴ Nobody should seek his own good, but the good of others" (NIV).  I can stay up late and watch tv until 12, but it doesn't benefit me in anyway to do it.  I tend to be grouchy and lazy when I don't get the rest I need.  I can eat that cupcake or the chocolate, but it doesn't benefit me in anyway.  It makes me frustrated that I can't control myself and that I am not the weight I want to be.(These are just two examples)  These aren't sins...but they don't help me in any thing I do.  God is showing me that if I focus on the good of others(being healthy so my children will have a mom for a very long time or keeping my house clean because I know it pleases my husband and keeps him mind clear) the selfish me that does whatever I want and doesn't think if it is beneficial or constructive will slowly disappear and I will become to woman God is calling me to be.I need the Lord to help me make the wise decisions.  It is my hearts cry, but I am getting in the way of what my heart wants.